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A State Of Mind

‘Mental Health’ is a term increasingly seen and used in all areas of life.  In the last week I have seen and read numerous articles on Youtube, in books, online and at work increasing knowledge on the subject.  The aim is to remove the stigma so people feel more able to share their feelings and subsequently gain the support that everyone may need at different points of their lives.

Due to his fight with Deontay Wilder this week there has been a lot of attention given to Boxing Champion Tyson Fury who previously has sufferred from depression and spoken openly about his mental health.  One of the most striking comments I recall is that if someone such as Fury, a high profile sportsman within a macho sport can be affected then anyone can; and it is okay to not feel 100% all of the time.

This leads to why I have written this post because recently I haven’t been feeling at my best.  This has led to feelings of anxiety and frustration which inevitably has impacted on my interpersonal relationships.  There are reasons I can attribute this to, a lack of sleep, suffering from a cold and a series of deadlines and events requiring my presence and attention.  Due to this overall state of busy-ness I have not given sufficient time to relax, meditate or indulge in methods of self care such as eating healthy food, exercising or taking a relaxing bath.  Furthermore I have not given sufficient time for my friends and family.

Fortunately I have a day coming up which I plan to use to recover and I know the steps I intend to take to get back on the right track to optimal mental health.  Catching up on sleep, getting tasks done, exercising, relaxing, goal setting and scheduling time for these exercises will hopefully improve my outlook and confidence to conquer life’s challenges.  This coupled with the longer, brighter and warmer days of Spring should bring positive changes.

Overall, I feel confident that my negative feelings are temporary and am fortunate there are people around me that will help give me the boost I need.  In the future I’m sure there will be times when I feel at a low ebb and similarly these people may require my support in return.  A problem shared is a problem halved and by writing this I already feel more confident and able to return to my best.  I hope that anyone reading this will also feel more empowered to speak out about any problems they may be suffering from; life is so fast it’s normal to need a helping hand from time to time.

Brexit Day

So today at 11pm the United Kingdom will leave the European Union.  A historic day which has been marked with mixed celebrations across the country and the minting of a new 50 pence piece.  But what does it mean in reality?

In essence, very little will change in the coming months as the UK moves through its transition period to December 2020.  No longer will the UK have voting rights in the Council or have MPs sitting in the European Parliament but the major issues of the free movement of people and goods will continue undisturbed until a withdrawal agreement is agreed.

I had written previously that I would be surprised if by January 31st 2020 a true Brexit had taken place and much work is still required.  I argue that so far all this step has really achieved is the partial appeasement of the conflictive and emotional situation which has divided the British public since the referendum of 2016.   Due to a Conservative majority in Parliament Boris Johnson will be confident that he can push through Brexit to completion but some important issues still need to be agreed and it remains unknown whether significant changes regarding immigration or trade will take place.

Thus, eleven more months of political debate and negotiation is on the horizon and despite today’s billing as the day the United Kingdom leaves the European Union, ‘Brexit Day’ is just another chapter in this long running saga.

Why I Believe War Can Be Ended

One could argue that the subject of ‘History’ is a story of battles and wars between tribes and nations culminating in the two devastating world wars of the twentieth century.  Even today the spectre of war remains as the assassination of Iranian General Qasem Soleimani threatens a new conflict on a global scale.  Due to its endurance throughout each of our lives, the opinion war is ‘human nature’ is commonly espoused by the media and a view held by the majority of the world’s population.  Yet there is a small, growing group of academics and researchers that have been actively working to abolish all wars and their presence is growing.

World Beyond War is a global nonviolent movement to end war and establish a just and sustainable peace.  Founded in 2014 the Group is currently running a six week online course which I enrolled on so I could learn more about the subject.  From the first week’s content, including a video from Executive Director David Swanson, some strong arguments were made which I shall consider in this post.

Firstly the idea that war is inevitable due to ‘human nature’ is an idea which Swanson considers to be a myth.  This is propagated by the idea that war has existed throughout history yet Swanson argues that much like human slavery, war has the potential to be abolished in the future.  According to the Encyclopaedia of Human Rights from Oxford University Press in the late eighteenth century three quarters of the earth’s population were held in slavery or serfdom and Swanson states the idea of abolishing something so pervasive and long lasting as slavery would have been widely considered ridiculous.   Yet today, although existent in some areas, human slavery is generally considered as undesirable, unjust and something which civilisation has passed on from.  The existence of organisations such as World Beyond War and countries such as Costa Rica and Iceland which have abolished their armies are indicators that this possibility is moving closer.   The expectation is not that the abolition of war will be achieved ‘now’ but it is something which will be possible in future years, perhaps before the 22nd Century.     

Furthermore, Swanson brings light to the different arguments which are used to defend the justification of war.  For instance, the criteria for a’ just’ war is that it is the last resort; yet, there are frequently non-violent alternatives which are not considered.  Instead the option of war is chosen because countries have prepared for war, have significant military power and see this as a method to achieve their aims.  If countries did not have militaries (such as Iceland or Costa Rica) there would be no choice but to find an alternative solution.  In counter to this, one could argue that not having a military could lead to a country being invaded/occupied which unquestionably is an emotive subject.  Education of non-violent methods of passive resistance could be encouraged to support this although a global agreement to abolish war would solve this problem.

Swanson explains that war is not necessary and is often chosen for financial reasons.  However, if military spending was used differently, many of the world’s problems could be solved – research from the site WorldBeyondWar.org/explained cites that 3% of US military spending could end starvation on earth.  Due to the existence of nuclear weapons, war in this era is also a dangerous choice and comes at the risk of nuclear apocalypse.  As President John F. Kennedy said, “Mankind must put an end to war or war will put an end to mankind.”

Overall, as an introduction, some strong arguments are made which expose the myth that war is ‘necessary’.  These reasons coupled with a growing global awareness and consciousness gives reason for me to believe that war can be ended in the future, in spite of the many challenges.  Learning more about the methods and actions which can be taken to encourage a world beyond war is something I hope to learn more about as I progress through the course.

 

I Want The Smoke

The transition from 2019 to 2020 has been a time to reflect on where I am in my life.  Receiving news that I had been successful in my application for promotion a few days prior to Christmas enhanced some truly brilliant, lovely family moments over the festive period.

My son, Edison is 22 months old and watching his progress and development has been a joy; I love him and my family so much.

With my son Edison at Heathlands Nature Reserve, December 2019.

There are many goals and projects forming and hope I will retain the energy to develop these.  I know that at my best I have great determination but when I am tired or have fear I can lose my connection with what is real (only love is real) and lose focus.  I hope this year to remember Marianne Williamson’s quote from her book ‘A Return To Love’:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”.

The title of this piece is is urban fighting talk as I want to be bold and conquer all adversities.  Conversely I know that to achieve this I must surrender to the present moment.  I must trust in myself and the magnificence of the universe.

May 2020 be the best year ever.

Book List 2019

Below is a list of the books I have read throughout the calendar year 2019.

1.  Unai Emery El Maestro – Romain Molina
2.  Autobiography Of A Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananada
3.  Walking To Jerusalem – Justin Butcher
4.  The Truth Vibrations – David Icke
5   Dark Matter – Blake Crouch
6   Escape Routes – Johann Christoph Arnold
7.  Unbeatable Mind – Maya Yoshida
8.  Hippie – Paulo Coelho
9.  Zero To Hero The Gareth Southgate Story – Rob Mason
10.  Arabia – Levison Wood
11.  The Richest Man In Babylon – George S. Clason
12.  A Life In Football – Ian Wright
13.  Invincible – Amy Lawrence
14.  American War – Omar El Akkad
15.  Miracles At Work – Emily Bennington
16.  How To Be A Footbaĺler – Peter Crouch
17.  Blood Sweat & McAteer – Jason McAteer
18.  How To Be A Great Dad – Ian Bruce
19.  The World Is As You Dream It – John Perkins
20.  Eastern Horizons – Levison Wood
21.  Stillness & Speed – Dennis Bergkamp
22.  A Different Corner – Richard Brentnall
23.  Get Prepared Now! – Michael Snyder & Barbara Fix
24.  The Roswell Conspiracy – Boyd Morrison
25.  The Enlightened Gardener – Sydney Banks
26.  The Life Plan – Erica Sosna
27.  Paradise & Beyond – Chris Sutton
28.  Self Leadership & The One Minute Manager – Ken Blanchard
29.  Refugee Tales – Edited by David Herd & Anna Pincus
30.  The Beckham Experiment – Grant Wahl
31.  The One Minute Manager Balances Work & Life – Ken Blanchard
32.  The One Minute Father – Spencer Johnson
33.  The One Minute Manager Meets The Monkey – Ken Blanchard
34.  The Silent Guides – Steve Peters
35.  Next – Michael Crichton
36.  Allez Allez Allez – Simon Hughes
37.  He Who Dares…My Genuine Autobiography – Derek Del Boy Trotter
38.  Lights In The Distance – Daniel Trilling
39.  World Peace & How To Make It Happen – Monish Dhawan
40.  Leadership & The One Minute Manager – Ken Blanchard
41.  Hate Me To Know Me – Iggy Mizuh
42.  Playing to Win – A.G. Lafrey & Roger L. Martin
43.  Education & Peace – Maria Montessori
44.  We Can Work It Out – Marshall Rosenberg
45.  Peace Is Possible – Prem Rawat
46.  The Mayan Resurrection – Steve Alten
47.  Walking The Americas – Levison Wood
48.  Even Heskey Scored – Emile Heskey
49.  20 Years Of talkSPORT – Ian Cruise
50.  The Law Of Divine Intervention – Marianne Williamson
51.  After Tomorrow – Gillian Cross
52.  A Shore Thing – Scotty T
53.  The Lazy Guru’s Guide to Life – Laurence Shorter
54.  Gazza In Italy – Daniel Storey
55.  The 80 Minute MBA – Richard Reeves & John Knell
56.  Zero K – Don Delillo
57.  The Barcelona Legacy – Jonathan Wilson
58.  One Minute For Yourself – Spencer Johnson

To me the most profound book from the list is ‘Autobiography of a Yogi’ by Paramahansa Yogananada, a book I should return to in order ro grasp its key insights.

Nearly a quarter of the books I have read this year are about football, five from the One Minute Manager series and three on Levison Wood’s travel experiences.  I find that I am frequently reading different books simultaneously because some are easier to read at work or simpler and more relaxing.

I have a list of books I plan to read and will see how my literary year for 2020 goes.

I wish everyone a good year and if you have read any of the books and would like to comment please take the opportunity.

Until next time…

Prince Albert The End

Earlier this year I wrote about my experience playing for Prince Albert, a team in the Ashford & District Sunday Football League.

My last update had brought me to a crossroads; facing a fight for my place in the starting line up, with increased absences caused by a new job and the responsibility of being a father leading me to consider my options.

I played on, starting and finishing all the remaining games which I was available for including the 2-1 home victory over Mersham Sports which confirmed our place in the District’s top division.  Yet not all was well behind the scenes and in the lead up to the last game two key players departed the club.

In August the manager asked me about my availability for the pre-season friendlies and I informed him not to count on me for the foreseeable future although I wasn’t going to sign for any other team. I would come along to watch a game, get involved and play when I could.

Unfortunately the pre-season games did not go well.  Despite hopes for a squad of sixteen players, only nine players made it for the first game and a similar amount the next.  The following week the manager posted in the group chat that he felt there was no choice but to withdraw the team from the league because it was unable to meet its obligations.  One of the players posted it was a shame but ‘inevitable’.

So after close to 50 years of existence, Prince Albert Football Club was gone and subsequently the decision about what I should do on Sunday mornings had been made for me.  For now at least, my footballing tale had been brought to a halt, gone not with a bang but a whimper.

Refugee Tales 2019 Part 2

Monday 8th July 2019

Alfriston – Eastbourne (by foot) – Ashford (by train)

Three pints of IPA following the event the night before had encouraged my decision to sleep outside under the stars.  It was peaceful and liberating but waking up cold was not ideal and it wasn’t the wisest thing because I lay close to the River Cuckmere  – so the mist at dawnbreak was felt by my lungs and subsequently my throat and voice.  It improved during the morning yet I was hoarse again by the afternoon.

After an enjoyable breakfast of granola, yogurt, milk and two coffees we headed off alongside the river.  I spoke to one of the Trustees of Gatwick Detainees Welfare Group (GDWP) about the funding they had received to support this project, the great volunteer support (70+ people assisting along the way) and how the idea had flourished from a book, to a walk to live literary and music events.

As we walked on, across undulating fields past sheep and through woodland I spoke to a volunteer about their experience visiting detainees at Bridge House, a detention centre near Gatwick Airport.  One of the key expectations GDWG has of its volunteers is that they turn up for every appointment they make without fail, as the detainees have often been let down so much throughout their lives.  The volunteer explained to me how he visited a detainee once a week for one hour and they were now participating in the walk.  For the detainees his visits raised morale, helping them to remember that they hadn’t been forgotten and there was someone there for them.

After lunch where I rested and relaxed in the sunshine we walked up onto the South Downs Way with magnificent views of the emerald English Channel.  I spoke with a French academic who had lived in the UK for twenty years and recently applied for a British passport due to her worry about Brexit.  As we walked and talked I learnt how she felt the United Kingdom (UK) leaving the European Union (EU) was like a marriage, the UK had signed up to the rules and couldn’t now just leave expecting that the last 30 years did not count.  Her view was that the British contingent involved in the negotiations had been extremely naive and unaware of how entwined EU and UK law was.  She also suggested an answer to why people chose the UK as their country of destination – colonialism, a historic connection similarly to how a person from the Congo may choose France.  This combined with other family members or friends indicated to me why the UK would be some asylum seekers preferred location.  I also learnt about Theresa May’s Guardian interview in 2012 about making the UK a hostile environment for illegal migrants.  As a Brit I associated the government with encouraging diplomatic relations with people of all nations so found this quite surprising.

We also discussed how psychologically when you make a decision about something, in particular when you have voted for something you gain a strong attachment to it being right.  This helps explain people’s staunch views on the subject of Brexit.  Of course, hopefully all people can be wise and rise above any conflicting views leading to civil unrest.

Refugee Tales walkers along the South Downs Way

As we walked past Beachy Head I learnt how one of the hopeful refugees had acted as a father figure to another young man from his country whilst they awaited the British system to make a decision on his immigration status.  Throughout the weekend I had seen the great connection between the group travelling with us.   I continued to converse with interesting people before having to divert towards the train station to head home.  The rest of the party would continue on to Hastings in two days time. 

As my train left Eastbourne I reflected on what had been a fantastic experience.  Undoubtedly the movement was a powerful demonstration of support for the call to an end to indefinite detention and there was a real feeling of community between the organisers, refugees/asylum seekers, walkers and volunteers.  Walking and talking together side by side was an effective way of communicating with each other and was something I had thoroughly enjoyed; I plan to attend again next year. 

Refugee Tales 2019 A Diary

Saturday 6th July 2019
Ashford – Lewes (by train)

Catching the 19.24 train by the skin of my teeth, I headed on my way to Lewes to stay with a group of walkers (who have walked from Brighton today) made up of ‘everyday’ people and refugees.

For the next two days I will be walking with this group of (I estimate) 100 people in a project by the Gatwick Detainees Welfare Group (GDWP) called ‘Refugee Tales’ – walking in solidarity calling for an end to indefinite detention.  The issue of detention is a difficult subject as it leaves people in a state of purgatory; waiting to find out if their application to become a refugee/asylum seeker has been successful and this process has left people waiting im some cases for years – unable to travel outside of a particular area, to not be given actual money (given an Aspen debit card) and in the worst case being sent back to their country of origin where persecution awaits them.  The project aims to raise awareness of these people’s plight, bring an end to indefinite detention and improve the situation for people in the future.

The railway journey split through the sheep fields of Appledore and along the shimmering shore of Cooden Beach arriving in Lewes close to 9pm.  Upon arrival at the accommodation I found no space left to lay my sleeping bag in the dormitory though fortunately a refugee helped me and I found a space in the attic, it was a fine place for me.

Sunday 7th July 2019
Lewes – Alfriston (by foot)

After a good night’s sleep we set off through the streets of Lewes and along the river.  Speaking with a teacher, I learnt how school staff had fought legal cases to protect asylum seekers about to turn 18 years old from being taken from the school directly for deportation.  As we walked I spoke with a charity fundraiser and a 6th form English teacher.  Each person I spoke to had different views on a range of subjects and particularly on Brexit.

Enjoying a tasty lunch we walked on to Charleston, home of the Bloomsbury Group in Sussex where we were welcomed with tasty refreshments.  We later arrived in sunny Alfriston where a vegan curry and a packed house awaited us for the evening’s event.

Refugee Tales walkers arriving in the village of Alfriston.

At the event one of the refugees gave a heartfelt story about his experiences in Sudan, Libya and into Europe.  It was clear that this young man feared going home to his village and had experienced great tragedies trying to find a better life.  His tale included living under a railway bridge in Paris and hiding under a lorry to reach the United Kingdom; yet, why he had not applied for asylum in Italy or France (both countries he had spent time in) was unclear.

He was given a standing ovation, receiving pats on the back and hugs all round.  The situations he had experienced had required great bravery and his fortitude was admirable.  Yet I found it a strange occurrence that someone could be praised for doing something illegal (entering through clandestine means) because they had suffered hardship in the past.

There is a strong call for humanity and I think many people can agree and will support the call for an end to indefinite detention; however supporting people who have committed illegal acts is a more debateable topic.

This account will continue in my next post Refugee Tales 2019 Part 2.

Brexit Flextended

So today was the day that the United Kingdom (UK) was set to leave the European Union.  British Prime Minister Boris Johnson said that the UK would be leaving with or without a deal and he would rather be “dead in a ditch” than agree a Brexit extension.  Yet a (fl)extension has been granted for the UK to leave on or before 31st January 2020.

I had written previously that I was sure there would be plenty of twists and turns ahead and there have been many.  The prorogation of parliament, it’s subsequent appeal and reinstatement, the passing of the Benn Act making it illegal for the UK to leave without a deal, a new deal being agreed with the EU, Parliament passing an amendment witholding support until full legislation of the withdrawal agreement has been scrutinised and now the announcement that a general election will take place on December 12th.  Much debate has been held, emotions fraught and column inches written and the forthcoming General Election is now a potential roadblock to prevent Brexit from ever taking place.

There have even been difficulties in agreeing the General Election date, with some politicians unhappy about a winter election.  What is clear is that there are many politicians who are trying to stop Brexit (486 politicians want to remain opposed to 160 to leave was a meme I saw recently) and so far they have succeeded,  twice.

Thus overall, since my last post on the subject in August I feel that the likelihood of Brexit taking place has decreased.  Although it is difficult to predict, my view remains that by the beginning of February a true Brexit will not have taken place and for now, the saga continues.

The International Day of Peace

In the summer of 2013 I took part in the Shift Network’s Peace Ambassador Training hosted by James O’Dea and Phillip Helmich.  The course included recordings  and insightful discussions with figures such as Marianne Williamson, Aqueela Sherrills, Azim Khamisa, Andrew Harvey, Velcrow Ripper, Dot Maver, Louise Diamond, David Korten, Michael Nagler, William Ury, Arun Gandhi, Beverley Rubik, Rita Marie Johnson & Don Beck.  Following the completion of the course I was invited to write about my experience for their ‘Catalyst’ newsletter and was posted on March 22, 2014.

“I would like to start by commenting that undoubtedly my enrollment in the 2013 Peace Ambassador Training program changed my life. It is only after a period of reflection that one can look back and see how much something has influenced you and I feel very much a different person for being part of it. Being connected to other peace ambassadors on a three month journey of self discovery was truly inspiring and motivating and I would recommend it to anyone who is considering taking part in it.

As part of the Summer of Peace I set up a website to host an online campaign to raise awareness of the International Day of Peace on September 21st and as part of the journey I connected with people from all over the world and even through Skype with people in America, South Africa and Australia as part of my project. My goal was that if the planet could be united for one moment in time we would realise and awaken as one consciousness for the first time ever. The aim was to do this by creating a trend on Twitter raising awareness of the day and letting people know about the Universal moment of World Peace at midnight GMT.

Although the campaign did not reach as many people as I had hoped, a social reach of 44,280 people was achieved and many of my friends & I spent the evening watching the live coverage that was available courtesy of Peace One Day. This helped to break down some of my personal walls of fear that had existed in front of my friends who were new to the subject; I am grateful they are now aware of the day and are supportive of it. I hope to again call on their support to promote awareness of Peace Day this year.

Overall the opportunity to connect with fellow ambassadors through the course and to use the forum to share ideas was extremely inspiring; although it was the quality of the dialogues James O’Dea had with other global peace leaders which I enjoyed the most. Overall I can strongly say that the course has given me the encouragement and support to be the change I wish to see in the world as well as the skills to apply it.

Since completing the course I have trained as a volunteer mediator and have already enjoyed success in helping neighbours and families to resolve their different conflicts, this has been an incredibly rewarding experience. I am also a regular contributor to the online peace campaign #hour4peace every Thursday at 4pm and a Social Media volunteer with Unify. Anyone interested in learning more can check out www.millen316.com or through my updates on Twitter @millen316

Further to this I would strongly recommend to all ambassadors to check out the potential of a world unified in synchronised moments of peace http://unify.org/ and the inspiring work of Peace One Day www.peaceoneday.org

With best wishes in peace to all”.

Happy Peace Day everyone.

Standing next to the Peace Pole in Finisterre, Spain, 2011.

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